When your child dies you suffer life’s most devastating loss. What
happens to you is worse than anything you can imagine. When your child dies, a
part of you dies with them, and you spiral down into hell on earth. Nothing can
prepare you for the pain you feel, and you lose your will to live. The sad part
is that you keep waking up every morning to face another day without your
child. How do you deal with such devastating pain and grief without losing your
mind? How do you go on? What is the meaning of life now? Even though you may
have surviving children, a spouse, relatives, friends, and your career,
everything is changed now. You will never see life the same again.
My child, Dawn, died at the age of 35 on March 28, 2007 after
giving birth to my third grandchild. I couldn’t function for two years after
that. I lost my career as a real estate agent, I lost both houses that I owned
and most of my possessions. I tried to put my life back together, but found
that there are very few resources available for bereaved parents.
Doctors, psychologists, and everyone else wants to put bereaved
parents in the same category as others who have lost loved ones. We are not in
the same category, because the
death of a child is
the one loss that is unnatural.
You can expect to outlive a spouse, a sibling, or a parent, but outliving your
child just shouldn’t happen. When it does, the world seems backward and
everything is strange. Eating, driving a car, laughing, and other familiar
things seem strange now. It’s like you are living on another planet and have to
learn about things all over again. You have to adjust to a new world without
your child.
As I stated earlier, when I finally got to a point where I was
tired of grieving and ready to put my life back together, I found very few
resources for bereaved parents. It seems like it’s just an issue that no
one wants to deal with. In today’s world when children (adult children
included) are dying at an alarming rate, something has to be done for the
parents left behind to grieve. I found out that every year in the U.S. alone
50,000 children under the age of 30 die leaving behind 100,000 grieving
parents. Since no one else wants to address this issue, I decided to
do it myself. I created a website called www.grief2joy.com that will help bereaved parents to put their
lives back together and discover what their life should be without their child.
The purpose of www.grief2joy.com is to help parents who have suffered the
loss of a child. Although the main focus is on parents
dealing with the death of a child, this web site can be
used by anyone who has had a devastating loss of any kind. Maybe you have
lost a good friend, your spouse, a sibling, your job, your business, your home,
or perhaps you have gone through a divorce. www.grief2joy.com can help you rebuild your life regardless of
the type of loss.
There’s no need to stay depressed, hopeless, and feel like your
life is over. It could be just beginning with www.grief2joy.com. We
have some wonderful plans for bereaved parents. Please visit the web site and
tell us what you think. We value your opinion and will respond if you have
questions or concerns
Jacqui Nock
